Did Your Curiosity Lose its Get Up and Go?
The famous Dorothy Parker said, “The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.” When dosed with courage and adventure, curiosity cures not only unrelenting boredom but also fear and even ignorance.
Do you remember as a child being curious when you saw a ladybug land on your arm for the first time? Were you curious about the yellow and orange colors of its tiny wing covers and how something so small could be so exciting?
Were you curious about your mother’s makeup drawer – her jewelry, her shoes, and her perfume? As a little girl, I was very curious about my mother’s private possessions so, one day, armed with courage, adventure, curiosity, and some trepidation, I explored every inch of her private drawers. I found red rouge that, when applied to my cheeks, would not come off! I found nylon stockings that made her legs so smooth and beautiful. The treasures I found were limitless and so exciting.
When did your curiosity begin about boys? About those strangefeelings you had when you saw a certain guy in the hall or sat by him in chemistry class? When did you get curious about sex? Did your curiosity get the best of you when you got the opportunity to explore those feelings with that guy?
I can remember I had many questions and much curiosity about many things when I was growing up. Some were answered by exploration like, “What happens when you grab hold of an electric mixer blade, or when you stick a tiny flashlight in a plugged in lamp socket?” Oh that’s when curiosity almost killed me! I had bruised fingers from the mixer and I was badly frightened by the shock I got from the lamp socket.
Do you still believe everything is possible like you did as a young child? Are you as curious today as you were then or has your sense of curiosity faded? One of the most important pieces of advice I ever received was to “remain curious.” For me this means keeping your heart open to receive the thing you are curious about and diving into life with both feet.
What about you? Are you as curious today as you were when you were a child?Are you still trying new things, creating new things, having fun with new and innovative ideas? Or do you doubt those who think outside the box and seek out innovation?
My curiosity got me in trouble when I was 15 and wondering what if Jesus, Gandhi or Buddha had been female rather than male. At my Southern Baptist Sunday School I asked, “Why are all the religious and many spiritual powers that be, men? Are men more spiritual than women?” The teacher told my parents I was a trouble maker and you can bet your sweet ass I stopped asking questions in that church, but my curiosity has never wavered about why religions insist on being dominated by men. For the record, my experience is that women are as much inclined toward spiritual principles as men.
Or are you curious about yourself? Are you curious about how your thinking and feeling actions created the life you are living today? Or about why you are satisfied or miserable? About why you feel sexy and sassy or just plain sad? What are you still curious about after so many years have passed by?
Not often, but occasionally I am curious about my first husband and what his life is like today and I wonder what I would be like now had we stayed married. It doesn’t last long because I then start to think about the extraordinary life I have had over the 36 years since we divorced and oh baby, am I thrilled to have had my life without him. Not that he was a bad guy, he was great, but I wouldn’t have had the life I have had (and loved) if I’d remained married to him.
I’m very curious about how to be a millionaire. Truly, what do I have to do to have millions of dollars? Do I buy a lottery ticket and hope for the best? Do I develop more business engagements and work 365 days a year and make millions that way? Or will I inherit millions from an unknown source? I’m very curious about how to be a millionaire and what I would do with the money.
How to Reawaken Your Curiosity
Take a couple of hours and ponder the people, circumstances and experiences you have some curiosity about. Curiosity is a spark of energy that can move us toward our desires so if you are curious about someone, call them or go see them. I recently stopped by a past boyfriend’s office and had a delightful conversation with him. He hasn’t changed; he still collects so much clutter that there isn’t room for anything or anyone else in his house, never mind his life but my curiosity gave me a sense of connection and closure at the same time.
Make a curiosity list and keep it close by – nothing is off limits.
- Do you want to drive a certain kind of car? Go for a test drive.
- Are you curious about Botox injections? Call the doctor and get a consultation.
- Do you wonder about an old flame? Give them a call.
The best thing that can happen when you satisfy your curiosity is that you will know more than you did before you took action. Living in the unknown and wondering about something is wasted time. Let your curiosity open the door of the unknown so you can have a look round. Push through your fear and trepidation. Practice being curious and allow for the unknown to guide you to new and fresh experiences and opportunities.
If you are feeling trapped and stifled in your life, it may be because you have lost the curiosity that opens new doors, or at least props them open for you to take a look and see if you want to dive in with both feet! Take the plunge – open your heart, mind and spirit to the energy and excitement that is found in curiosity!
My book, The Age of Sage, Extraordinary Advice for Extraordinary Women, is a great handbook for learning how to name, claim and frame your beliefs about yourself – including your ability to be curious. After you register to buy the book you will receive a Daily Womantra, which is an inspiring, motivational thought to start your day.
For those of you who want a more personal approach, I offer1-to-1 Coaching, Freedom over 40 for women asking, “Now, what about me?” This is an exclusive package designed for women to take ownership of their lives and create MORE of what they want.
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9th June 2015
Judith Pepper is a sage, author and transformational speaker who guides women over 40 to ask and explore the question “Now, What About ME?” She is the author of The Age of Sage: Extraordinary Advice for Extraordinary Women, a selection of narratives, formulas and ideas on how women can reframe negative thoughts into positive beliefs, so they can build their momentum to live life as fully and wildly as they desire.
Judith is also an expert public speaker on the subject of life transformation over 40. She’s addressed audiences of hundreds of women all over the US. She has won numerous awards in everything from community leadership to pecan pie baking! She firmly believes any woman can reap extraordinary success and pleasure, regardless of what she does for a living or where she is in life.