What Closet? How To Give Ourselves Permission to do NOTHING
Did you get out of bed this morning with the thought of starting something new, or starting over on something already in the mix or finishing something that needs to be completed? Did you have breakfast, get dressed and then got sidetracked from starting your work by a phone call, your spouse, dirty laundry or that constant nagging doubt that it seems too hard to start?
I’ve been putting off a summer cleanse in my closet and this morning, I vowed, today is the day to clean my closet. I meant what I said. But first I meditated, fixed breakfast and was ready to start but then I spotted my walking shoes. I decided it would be better to do my 3-mile walk around Rice University at 9:00 am when it is relatively cooler than in the afternoon when the heat and humidity are high and uncomfortable.
The 3-mile walk pumped me up physically, mentally and spiritually to clean the closet. Got home, took a quick shower and walked into my closet and walked out. I decided to do nothing. Yes, nothing. Nothing was more important than cleaning the closet.
See how easy it is (for me) to do nothing and not clean the closet? When the real reason for not cleaning the closet is I just don’t want to. I don’t want to pull out the clothes, try them on and decide what to keep and what to put in the Goodwill bundle. What I really want is for someone to come and take them all away, well most of them except for the Vintage Collection purple coat, my suede jacket from National Finals Rodeo in Las Vegas, and my new turquoise swim suit….you get the picture. I don’t want to clean the damn closet.
In my book, The Age of Sage, Extraordinary Advice for Extraordinary Women, I wrote the narrative “I Left the Bed Unmade” which invites you to rewrite the rule of “getting the work done first then you can play.” To enjoy the Italian concept of “Il dolce far niente” translated to “the sweetness of doing nothing.” I am aware this phase can send shivers up spines of folks who make lists and accomplish every item before midnight. So shiver and then do nothing.
Give yourself the gift of “the sweetness of doing nothing.” Leave something undone and do nothing, don’t even read a magazine or turn on your iPad or phone. Do nothing. Don’t worry about what you haven’t done, or need to do or should be doing. Instead do what you want, what makes you smile and feel a sense of joy, perhaps feeling just a bit naughty!
I’m going to clean the closet, sooner or later. Clearing out those clothes isn’t a priority, or I would have accomplished the task. I’m not lazy or irresponsible. In fact, it isn’t time to summer clean the closet. It’s time to relax, enjoy summer and let the good times roll.
There is always time to clean the damn closet.
Over the coming weeks, I’ll be looking at other topics that women over 40 have asked me about:
- Why Am I Afraid to Go to Social Events Alone?
- Sexy or Sassy or Not?
- Why Am I So Afraid of Money?
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June, 28 2015
Judith Pepper is a sage, author, transformational speaker and coach who guides women after 40 to ask and explore the question “Now, What About ME?” She is the author of The Age of Sage: Extraordinary Advice for Extraordinary Women, a selection of narratives, formulas and ideas on how women can reframe negative thoughts into positive beliefs, so they can build their momentum to live life as fully and wildly as they desire.
Judith is also an expert public speaker on the subject of life transformation after 40. She’s addressed audiences of hundreds of women all over the US. She has won numerous awards in everything from community leadership to pecan pie baking! She firmly believes any woman can reap extraordinary success and pleasure, regardless of what she does for a living or where she is in life.